We are so thrilled to share exciting news with our friends and family. In fact, we love to surprise our family and friends with fantastic news. This can include new jobs, engagements, pregnancy and lots of other things. As people created for relationships we thrive on sharing our lives with people in our community. This all makes sense.
But for those of us hoping to have exciting pregnancy news to share, it is burdensome. Those of us hoping to be pregnant grow anxious after we hear someone's started trying. We grow anxious if someone looks like they could be growing a belly. And we stay anxious until someone shares the announcement we've been anticipating. Everyone jumps with excitement and celebrates this huge milestone while you mask how you're really feeling. You ARE excited and you ARE praying for a healthy mama and baby, but you ARE sad and crushed that yet another person has accomplished something you're begging God for.
My advice- tell that person in advance through a text, email or Facebook message. Don't do it weeks before your announcement. This build the anxiety of every time you're together and the person waiting to shoulder your announcement, but rather just a day or two. This gives that person time to work through their own feelings and be ready to express their genuine happiness for you and your family. It's also possible that person may choose not to be present when they know the announcement is coming. This may not seem fair and it may seem selfish of that other person. But the person you're thinking of doesn't want to make your announcement about them. They do not want to rob you of any bit of the excitement and celebration. And sometimes, it is just too hard to put on a mask.
Truth.
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